Thing Fall Apart…Posted: June 29, 2013
“What am I going to do?” I sat dumbfounded in my car a little over a month ago repeating that question to myself over and over. I drove home with tears streaming down my face in that pathetic romantic comedy way. I got let go from my job, I needed to find a new place to live, my roommate and last college friend was moving away, and a plethora of things all happened at once. I felt like everything in my life was up in the air and I was completely out of control of every situation.
I realize that things could have been much worse. I wasn’t diagnosed with a disease. No one died. I wasn’t going to be unemployed forever. I wasn’t going to become some friendless hermit. I knew all of those things and yet in that moment over a month ago I felt completely gutted.
It’s easy in that moment to sit and dwell on how quickly everything fell apart. You slowly acknowledge that you should have seen it coming and you feel like an idiot for being blindsided. I think that was an important part of rebuilding all those things that fell apart. I could finally see where I was wrong. I could see things I had ignored to protect my pride and ego. After a few days I started to rebuild.
Job. That was the most important thing I needed to find. I didn’t start sending out my resume blindly because that doesn’t work. I started with my connections and letting everyone I know that I needed a job. I was overwhelmed by the amount of people who reached out to me and who were willing to help me. People I barely knew were emailing me or sending me Facebook messages with jobs or companies to check out. A connection is what eventually led to a phone interview for a job that was EXACTLY what I wanted. It’s connections that get you the job. I start in 9 days. I can’t wait to help others in the future.
Place to live. I asked around and found a great place. It’s safe, inexpensive, and perfect for me. I move in 21 days. Turns out my job is only going to be a mile away.
Relationships. I learned a valuable lesson over the past year. Telling someone how you feel is the best thing you can do for yourself and other people. I am not only referring to romantic relationships. I mean friendships too. Tell people when you are hurt, tell people when you need them, and tell them you care. Maybe I over do it now, but I tell people all the time how much they mean to me.
I feel like people always talk about how quickly things fall apart but forget to tell everyone when they fall back into place. My chips were all in the air and so far I have liked where they have landed. A few people were extra awesome and I want to mention them:
Sarah Eutsler was kind enough to feature me on 20 Something Indy, a great site for 20 something in Indy!: http://www.twentysomethingindy.com/
Heath Benfield. He and comedian Nick Hall have recently started a YouTube series called Baseball Wisdom with Kent Murphy. It’s probably going to be a big deal soon, so jump on board and watch the videos (NSFW, language): http://www.youtube.com/user/nahall3/videos or buy a tee shirt: http://www.coachkentmurphy.com/
Teresa Thompson. My former roommate. You were a great listener and cheerleader when I needed it. Thank You and best of luck in Chicago!
and…the girls in this photo for tolerating my grumpiness during our reunion trip:
So this is the last personal post for now. I am excited to get back to the movies.